Earned Secure Attachment

topic

Earned secure attachment is the developmental achievement of secure relational functioning by individuals who did not begin with secure early attachment — produced through the corrective relational experiences of therapy, consistently positive adult relationships, and the deliberate development of reflective functioning (the capacity to understand one's own and others' mental states) that allows the insecure early attachment internal working model to be progressively updated by new relational experiences. Research establishes that approximately 40% of adults who were insecurely attached in infancy develop earned security as adults through these experiences.

Role

Earned secure attachment is the empirical refutation of the fatalism about attachment — the belief that early attachment determines adult relational functioning immutably — that makes attachment theory feel deterministic rather than liberating. The research showing that attachment security can be earned through subsequent relational experience positions relationship quality investment (therapy, deliberate relationship skill development, cultivation of secure friendships and intimate partnerships) as the most consequential psychological intervention available for people whose early relational experience was inadequate — not as an impossible reversal of developmental damage but as the natural developmental continuation that adverse early experience interrupted.

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